Queer friends, a question.
I understand that being in the closet is a big deal and that some people while working on coming to terms with their queer identities want to be “discreet” or “discrete” or whatever.
I want to be respectful of other people, especially some people who feel trapped by their family’s respective culture(s), who aren’t out and about as big old queers of whatever variety.
Okay, so how do you tell someone who is really closeted but has a profile on a dating (etc) site that you want to chat first and maybe see a picture of them before meeting up for a date (etc) or you’re over them?
Is that rude? Is it rude to insist on texting me for a bit to get to know you without mail-order bride ads or the like invading my space while reading furtive messages back and forth?
How do you say “If you’d like to write me you should be a big out adult queer” without disrespecting closeted folks who might be stuck in awful and awkward situations?
9 LGBT Athletes of Color Who Paved the Way for Jason Collins - COLORLINES
NBA player Jason Collins became the highest-profile openly gay black man in America yesterday. As with any big step, he didn’t get there alone. Here, a look at some LGBT athletes of color who came before him.
Let’s not pretend that other queer people of colour haven’t come out before Jason Colllins, he’s just the first currently active male Big Four athlete to come out.
Fox News headlines v. real headlines, part 2425183.
The brunette part is really important.
When you state hair color relative to an action, it sounds like a porn title
A+ Fox News
why is fox news allowed to exist can someone tell me please because i am legit confused
When the Nazi concentration camps were liberated by the Allies, it was a time of great jubilation for the tens of thousands of people incarcerated in them. But an often forgotten fact of this time is that prisoners who happened to be wearing the pink triangle (the Nazis’ way of marking and identifying homosexuals) were forced to serve out the rest of their sentence. This was due to a part of German law simply known as “Paragraph 175” which criminalized homosexuality. The law wasn’t repealed until 1969.
If you say the “A” in LGBTQIA+ is for “Ally” I will personally paint the word “Asexual” on a baseball bat and beat you with it.
This.
Context for the chat post:
This last January, the Bad Girls Club YYC presented Calgary’s first voguing ball called Out of the Closet. It was amazing. And it was organized by TBGC (Out of the Closet information) and featured many queer people of colour (QPOC) organizing and participating in the Ball.
It was an homage and celebration of ball culture and they posted definitions and videos about the event and categories so participants and the audience would know what to expect and the origins of the event.
As a queer child of Whites (QCOW) who had watched and become obsessed with Paris is Burning and very interested in drag culture, I was beyond thrilled to see the event come up on my FB newsfeed and leapt at the chance to attend. As part of my virtual immersion into ball and drag culture I told any of my friends who would listen and my boyfriend at the time about Paris and terms and categories and so on.
Through the awesome videos TBGC made and my lectures, my friends and I went to the ball with at least a basic understanding of the origins of ball culture and a developing respect for it.
I approached the ball and was happy to see that QPOC were running it. I was confident that I was respectfully participating in an event that celebrated ball culture.
After considering how amazing it would be to walk, I decided to go and walk in schoolboy realness. Thanks to my incredible drag mama Visa De Klein I walked and won the inaugural Schoolboy Realness trophy, bringing glory to our Haus of Cash.
I don’t think that I appropriated the ball culture but I am still a little uneasy about it.
Black Queer Culture and the Misappropriation of Voguing
The act of voguing symbolizes the freedom to literally take up space with unbound and evocative movement, and in a world in which queer people of color are too firmly shoved into the margins to do so anywhere else. A world where white people are the default faces for every letter in LGBTQI, while QPOC are flattened into stereotypes and reduced to statistics, if not ignored entirely. Voguing is a dance form not only defined by its sassy, emphatic gestures, couture poses and gleaming confidence, but by its history as a safe space for QPOC. The dance form itself is inseparable from the racial and sexual identity of the performers, as the dancing symbolizes the lived experience specific to its performers. Therefore, a white person voguing is a destruction of the symbol.
(Source: unheard-of-songs)
“Before Stonewall” is an incredible 1984 documentary that looks at the American queer experience before the Stonewall riots.
